With apologies to Carole King, I’d like to describe my friendship with Jesus Christ in a paraphrase of her ever popular song:

When you’re down and troubled
And you need someone to care
And nothing, no nothing, is going right,
Close your eyes and think of him
And soon he will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night.

You just call out his name
And you know wherever he is
He’ll come running, to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you’ve got to do is call
And he’ll be there, yes he will.
You’ve got a friend.

The Jesus I want to know is a loving friend. The longest conversation recorded in the Bible is this dialogue between Jesus and the woman at the well. It’s a story of spiritual transformation couched in the context of living water. It is an illustration of divine friendship that cuts across culture and transcends time.

In today’s Gospel (John 4:5-42). Jesus meets a woman at the well who is very unhappy. She’s tried five different husbands and none have made her happy. The surprise is that she is not completely jaded or cynical.

When Jesus spoke to her about flowing water that would satisfy her thirst, she did not scoff. She said, “Sir, give me that water.” So Jesus gives her what no one had ever given her – not empty promises. Jesus gives her living water. Jesus gives her himself.

Jesus says something to the woman that causes her to allow him to change her life. Jesus tells her that he knew she was living with a man outside of marriage and that she had been married five times before this. Jesus lets her know that she is continuing her sinful ways. This all of a sudden causes the woman to change her life.

Why? It doesn’t make sense that she would be so impressed with the accusation of a Jewish man. There had to be something more here. The more had to be in Jesus’ tone of voice. His tone of voice had to convey his concern for her. She had to feel that Jesus was talking to her as a person and not an object of scorn as many men would do.  

Jesus’ tone of voice must have said to her, “My dear woman, YOU CAN BE BETTER THAN THIS!” Jesus speaks to her heart and the woman’s heart turns to him.

“YOU CAN BE BETTER THAN THIS!” That phrase has been bouncing around in my head as of late, and not as something I say to others, but as something I say to myself: “I CAN BE BETTER THAT THIS!” I can be better than a society that seeks fulfillment in material possessions and condemns itself to the meaningless acquisition of stuff. I can be better than spending my time attacking people who are backing politicians who think differently than I do.

I think the real problem here is that you and I see sin as either MORTAL or SUPERFICIAL. We’ve done away with Venial Sin. So if we haven’t committed a mortal sin, we think we’re not that bad. We don’t see the pain we are inflicting on others by our words or our deeds that we judge to be superficial sins, at worst. We tell ourselves that all we’ve done is stub our toe. We didn’t amputate our foot through a mortal sin.

Maybe some of the reasons why I am not better than this is that I have not really tried to be better. My temper, my lack of patience, my bad language on the highway pops up again and again because I am not convinced that I can be better than I have been.

So often when we’re involved in sin, we don’t go to Confession because we’ve given up the fight and we feel we aren’t able to avoid the sin in the future. Maybe we are selling ourselves short.

Jesus transformed the woman at the well because he was concerned about her. He wanted her to be the best person she could be. He told her she could do it. The woman heard his message resoundingly in her heart. She was determined to change her life and she wanted to shout out and tell the world that she had found and encountered the Messiah.

This is why Catholics seek the Sacrament of Reconciliation during Lent. We know that Jesus loves us and cares for us individually. He wants us to be better and his love transforms us.

The people in the town saw how the woman had changed. For the first time they saw her filled with a lasting joy. She was very convincing. But then the townspeople met Jesus themselves and they too became followers of Jesus. 

It is not what I or any preacher says about Jesus that matters. All that matters is Jesus himself. We are all followers of Jesus. And Jesus tells you and me that we can be better than we are. His overpowering love gives us the courage to change our lives and to embrace his life.

“YOU CAN BE BETTER THAN THIS!” Jesus says to you and me in a tender, warm voice of love.

How in YOUR own life do YOU see sin as either MORTAL or SUPERFICIAL and not Venial?      How can “YOU BE BETTER THAN THIS?”

THE GOSPEL IS THE ONLY STORY WHERE THE HERO DIES FOR THE VILLAIN!!

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